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Monday, February 2, 2026

I Married a Beast


There's a moment in Disney's Beauty and the Beast that always makes me catch my breath. It's not the ballroom dance or even the transformation scene. It's earlier, quieter - when the Beast, nervous and awkward, throws open the doors to his library and watches Belle's face light up with wonder.

"It's wonderful!" she breathes, spinning among the floor-to-ceiling shelves.

"It's yours," he says simply.

In that moment, the Beast doesn't offer Belle jewels or gowns or empty flattery. He offers her what matters most to her - a room full of stories, ideas, and imagination. He sees who she really is. And in seeing her, he reveals himself. Two bookish souls, finding each other among the pages.

This is where their real love story begins, not with physical attraction or instant chemistry, but with shared passions and the slow recognition of kindred spirits. I had a moment like that soon after meeting my husband. I was dating the training manager at Farrell's Ice Cream Parlour, and Keith was engaged. We decided to go to the beach one day after work, and he noticed my old beach towel. I joked about it - I come from a family that gets every last drop out of a bottle of catsup. The next day, there was a new beach towel on the driver's seat of my car. This was during the days when you didn't have to lock your car, of course. 

Beauty and the Beast has endured across centuries and countless versions because its core truth remains relevant: real love requires looking beyond the surface to see someone's true character. Belle doesn't fall for the Beast's appearance - she falls for his kindness, his growth, his vulnerability, and yes, his library. She sees the person beneath the curse. The beast would have given her a new beach towel.


I kid my husband, Keith, that we're Beauty and the Beast - though I should clarify, he's actually quite handsome, and I've been known more for brains than beauty. But he can turn into a bit of a beast when he's hungry (hangry is real, folks) or when he encounters difficult people. More importantly, like the Beast with Belle, he's fiercely protective of those he loves. He guards our granddaughters and me like he's sitting on that proverbial fence, watching for any threat, ready to defend. As he says, "You want me on that fence!"


Like the Beast offering Belle his library, Keith and I have built our own collection of shared passions after fifty years of marriage. DVDs fill our shelves. We have close to 2,000 books in our Kindle Library that we own and subscribe to Kindle Unlimited. We understand each other's protective instincts, our quirks, our hunger-induced mood swings. We've learned to see past the "beastly" moments to the person underneath - and to let ourselves be fully seen in return.

In our current world, where we swipe left or right based on a photo, where first impressions are formed in seconds from social media profiles, and where we're constantly judged by superficial metrics, this message feels more important than ever. We live in a society obsessed with surface-level perfection, yet starving for genuine connection. The Beast's story reminds us that transformation happens through patience, understanding, and truly seeing one another - not despite our flaws, but through accepting our whole, complex selves.

And like Belle and her Beast, I didn't fall in love with Keith immediately. Our story is more like Ashley and Melanie in Gone with the Wind - though that comparison might raise some eyebrows - they were cousins! Stay with me here. In Margaret Mitchell's novel, Ashley reflects on how he and Melanie are suited to each other because they share the same background, values, and understanding of the world. They speak the same language, he says - much to Scarlett's fury, as she could never understand that compatibility built on shared foundations could be deeper than passionate physical attraction. She's beautiful and surrounded by suitors. Why couldn't she have Ashley, too? She didn't discover until after Melanie died that he wasn't right for her. Melanie was Ashley's one true love.

Keith and I discovered we were cut from the same cloth, like Ashley and Melanie. Our backgrounds were similar. Our fathers were born in Colorado, a few hundred miles apart. We both had devout Catholic mothers and fathers who converted to the religion - an unusual parallel that shaped both our childhoods in similar ways. We both love to read, losing ourselves in stories the way Belle treasured every book in that library. We both love movies, sharing that joy of storytelling in another form. We even both played hockey - he played ice hockey, I played field hockey. These weren't superficial similarities. They were the threads of shared experience and values that wove us together. We're the same age, know the same songs, and can speak in "movie speak" as we call it. We constantly use lines from movies, books, and songs to communicate. We're passionate about the Olympics and Oscars.

But our love wasn't love at first sight. It was the slow building of trust and understanding. It was finding someone who spoke my language. We met in February, started dating in July, got engaged in August and married the following February. 

That's the real magic of Beauty and the Beast. It's not about the spell breaking or the prince returning to his handsome form. It's about two people learning to be vulnerable enough to show their true selves and brave enough to love what they find. It is about loving the person who makes you feel comfortable.

And speaking of Disney love stories we cherish - I'm starting a new YouTube series - Writing is Life, and I'll use my storytelling skills to write the next chapter in some of Disney Studios' masterpieces. If you been wanting to become an author, or learn screenwriting from a different angle - or even learn more about AI and animation, visit https://www.youtube.com/@sandijerome and please subscribe! I'm not trying to make money on YouTube; I'm trying to promote my books and screenwriting career.

What's your favorite moment in Beauty and the Beast? Have you found your own love story in an unexpected place? Share in the comments below.


 

Friday, June 20, 2025

Tools of the Trade

 
My dad died this month, just days before Father's Day. Before you get too sad, he was 96 and had said on his birthday, after watching a video that I had made for him, that he was "ready to go." He had been sleeping most of the day, and I think he was just tired. I inherited great health from both my parents. My mother won an award for never missing a day of school for 12 years! I can't remember her ever being sick. She died in her 70s from cancer, but growing up, she was "strong as an ox." My dad was the same; he could rip a phone book in half, and when we got attacked by a gang of teen girl pickpockets in Paris, Dad spotted one with his wallet and he grabbed her arm with a vise-like grip. The train door kept opening and shutting on her until she finally dropped his wallet.
Dad always believed in working "smarter, not harder" and using the right tool for the job. I developed high mechanical skills by following him around as a kid when he worked, and I loved retrieving whatever tool he needed. When it comes to being a writer, I find that I can work smarter and faster by using the right tools.
I often get asked how someone can get into screenwriting because they have an idea for a movie. I always start out with "write it down!" I have notebooks all over the house, and I often email myself or tell Siri to create a note. The next piece of advice I give is for a prospective screenwriter to read a script. Writing in that format is not for the faint of heart. For a former programmer like me, the structure is catnip - I love it. It doesn't stop my creative process because I bought screenwriting software a few days after I decided to write a movie. You might want to try a free trial version of one of the screenwriting programs to see if you can handle the technical aspects of the software. 
I started screenwriting with Movie Master Screenwriter 2000 and then switched to Final Draft 4 a few years later - yes, version 4, and they are now on version 13.  When it comes to choosing screenwriting software, three names consistently surface in professional circles: Final Draft, FadeIn, and Movie Magic Screenwriter. Each offers unique advantages and caters to different needs within the screenwriting community. After using all three programs extensively, I've discovered that while each has its merits, the practical realities of collaboration and industry standards often dictate your choice more than features alone.

Final Draft has maintained its position as the undisputed leader in screenwriting software for over two decades. Final Draft is the preferred screenwriting software of studios and production companies worldwide, trusted by 95% of the entertainment industry. This dominance isn't accidental—the software delivers professional-grade functionality that meets the exacting standards of Hollywood productions. The software excels in automatic formatting, eliminating the constant worry about industry-standard pagination and structure. Writers can focus entirely on their story while Final Draft handles the technical requirements behind the scenes. Recent updates have addressed long-standing user complaints, particularly with the notable 13.2.0 update, which introduced an autocorrect facility, bringing the software more in line with modern writing expectations. Final Draft's collaboration features are robust, supporting real-time editing and comprehensive revision tracking. The software includes over 100 templates, story planning tools, and production-ready export options. For screenwriters working within the studio system or collaborating with industry professionals, Final Draft's compatibility advantages are undeniable.

However, this market leadership comes with drawbacks. The software carries a premium price that can be prohibitive for emerging writers, and some users find certain features unnecessarily complex for basic screenwriting needs. I have three computers, and it only lets me have two activated. When I switch to my MAC, which handles Grammarly better, I have to deactivate either my Windows laptop or desktop and then re-activate on my MAC. I have another licence for the Final Draft GO - that I can use on my iPad, but it has limited features.

FadeIn has quietly built a reputation as the most advanced software used by professionals writing for motion pictures, television, video games, the stage, radio, and more. What sets FadeIn apart is its commitment to providing professional-level functionality without the premium pricing or bloated feature sets that can overwhelm writers.The software's interface prioritizes simplicity and speed. MacWorld gave the software a score of 4.5 out of 5, mentioning that it has "all the major features—and then some—found in industry standard Final Draft, but at a quarter of the price". FadeIn supports an impressive range of platforms, including Windows, Mac, Linux, iPhone/iPad, and Android, making it accessible to writers regardless of their preferred setup.

FadeIn's revision management and page locking features rival those found in much more expensive software. The program includes a unique Dialogue Tuner that allows writers to view and edit specific character dialogues in isolation—a feature that proves invaluable during character development and revision phases. The software also provides comprehensive import and export capabilities, theoretically making collaboration with users of other platforms seamless. The development philosophy behind FadeIn is particularly appealing: when new features, fixes, enhancements, or whatever else are available, they're made available to all users, for free. This stands in stark contrast to the subscription models and paid upgrade cycles common with other professional software.

Movie Magic Screenwriter represents the old guard of screenwriting software, and while some consider it dated, it continues to serve a dedicated user base. Movie Magic Screenwriter is an award-winning screenwriting software that formats movies, television, novels, stage plays and even comic book scripts, making it the only program for all types of creative writing.
The software's NaviDoc technology provides a unique approach to script organization, displaying your screenplay alongside outlines, scene cards, notes, and bookmarks in a unified interface. This feature proves particularly valuable for writers who prefer to see their story structure and script simultaneously. Movie Magic Screenwriter also offers the broadest template selection, supporting not just screenplays but novels, comic books, radio plays, and theatrical productions.

For writers who work across multiple formats or prefer a more traditional approach to script development, Movie Magic Screenwriter provides tools that other software often overlooks. The program includes extensive production features and remains a preferred file format of WGA, West. However, Movie Magic Screenwriter feels less modern than its competitors, and some users find its interface less intuitive than newer alternatives. The software's strength lies in its comprehensive feature set rather than its ease of use.

Pricing Comparison
Final Draft 13:
Personal License: $249.95
Academic Version: $169.95 (with valid student/teacher ID)
30-day free trial available
FadeIn Pro:
Regular License: $79.95 (one-time purchase)
Student Version: $59.95 (with verification)
Free updates for life
Movie Magic Screenwriter:
Full Version: $169.00
Academic Version: $99.95
Upgrades: $89.95 (from previous versions)
While feature comparisons and pricing considerations matter, the practical reality of professional screenwriting often overrides personal preferences. The industry's overwhelming adoption of Final Draft creates a network effect that's difficult to ignore. When producers, directors, and other collaborators expect Final Draft files, using alternative software can create unnecessary friction in the creative process.

This industry standardization became apparent in my own workflow. Yes, I started my screenwriting journey with Movie Magic Screenwriter, appreciating its comprehensive feature set and multi-format capabilities. The software served me well for initial drafts and personal projects, providing all the tools necessary for my time in UCLA's professional screenwriting program.

However, as my career progressed and collaborations became more frequent, Final Draft's industry dominance became impossible to ignore. The transition wasn't driven by superior features—Movie Magic Screenwriter had everything I needed. Instead, practical considerations forced the switch: producers expected Final Draft files, revision tracking needed to be compatible with industry standards, and seamless collaboration required speaking the same software language as everyone else in the industry.

The collaboration challenges became even more apparent when working with a producer who preferred FadeIn. While FadeIn offers excellent export capabilities and can save files in Final Draft format, the conversion process isn't always perfect. Scripts exported from FadeIn to Final Draft format often require careful line-by-line review to ensure proper formatting translation. Action lines sometimes convert to dialogue, scene headers may shift categories, and character formatting can become inconsistent. These conversion errors, while not insurmountable, add time and potential for mistakes to every collaboration.
This constant need for format verification defeats much of the efficiency gain that good screenwriting software should provide. Instead of focusing on creative development, valuable time gets spent on technical troubleshooting and format verification.

Each of these screenwriting programs offers genuine value, and the "best" choice depends on individual needs and career circumstances. FadeIn provides excellent value and professional features at an attractive price point. Movie Magic Screenwriter offers unmatched versatility for writers working across multiple formats. Final Draft, despite its premium pricing, delivers the industry compatibility that professional screenwriting often demands. For emerging screenwriters or those working on personal projects, FadeIn represents an excellent entry point with professional capabilities. Writers who work across multiple formats or prefer comprehensive organizational tools should consider Movie Magic Screenwriter. However, for screenwriters actively collaborating within the industry or aspiring to do so, Final Draft's market dominance makes it a practical necessity rather than just a preference.
But Final Draft was acquired by Cast & Crew Entertainment Services. The acquisition happened during Final Draft's 25th anniversary year. This is the same company that acquired Coverfly and that Contest tracking platform is being shut down a few months after I researched items for this book. Other popular screenwriting software you might have considered are several notable options that many writers use:
WriterDuet - Used by over 2 million screenwriters, TV shows, and blockbusters, this is particularly popular for collaboration with real-time co-writing features.
Celtx - A cloud-based platform that's popular with indie filmmakers because it combines screenwriting with pre-production tools like storyboarding and scheduling.
StudioBinder - Another comprehensive production platform that includes screenwriting as part of a larger suite of filmmaking tools.
Highland - Created by screenwriter John August (Big Fish, Charlie and the Chocolate Factory), this software works with the Fountain file format and focuses on distraction-free writing.
But the software you choose should serve your story, not complicate it. While features and pricing matter, the most important consideration is which tool enables you to focus on what truly matters: crafting compelling narratives that connect with your audience. Sometimes, that means choosing the industry standard not because it's objectively superior, but because it removes barriers to collaboration and professional integration.
My dad was extremely proud of my writing career. I think a lot of that pride came from his understanding of what I did. When I owned a technology company, he'd ask again and again, "What exactly do you do?" I'd laugh because, as a CPA, I did the books for my company, including payroll. Our software ran our own company in addition to our clients, so I wrote the code to calculate payroll, along with designing constant improvements to our software. I worked closely with investors, customers, and employees, putting in regular 14-hour days. Today, I merely write, and it is so easy for me because I know how to do it faster and better than most people. In future blogs, I'll discuss the other technology I use in my writing career, including a few programs I developed myself.

Sunday, April 20, 2025

Early Mother's Day


 "A mother's arms are more comforting than anyone else's." - Princess Diana


Mother's Day comes early next month, normally before my blog is done, so I thought I'd write about my mother. Her birthday is in a few weeks, and my own was a few weeks ago. My earliest childhood memory was looking out my bedroom window and seeing the side of a huge feed truck. My parents owned a chicken ranch, and much of my early years were spent working. I had the job of candling eggs, which was a visual inspection of an egg as it passed in front of a bright light before entering the egg washer to find any fertilized eggs. Talk about early sex education! I was also the one to collect the eggs because I had tiny fingers and quick hands. But being only five, I didn't know much about physics,and when the feed truck pulled away, I thought the house was moving and screamed. I remember my mother hugging me and explaining that the house didn't move, the feed truck did.
This simple moment fundamentally shaped how I understand teaching and growth. I learned that true nurturing isn't about removing obstacles but providing the support and space for others to overcome them themselves. Years later, as an adult, I find myself approaching challenges with others—whether mentoring colleagues or helping friends through difficulties—with this same balanced approach: present enough to provide security, distant enough to allow growth. This single memory gave me a template for understanding care that values both protection and independence, a perspective that colors how I view relationships, education, and personal development to this day.


My mother died at a younger age than I am now of cancer. My dad has had to live out his final Act without her. Yes, he remarried, traveled the world, and even got to see the Pope - but I know he misses her. As Mother's Day approaches, I think of her.  She loved animals; growing up, I was allowed to have as many pets as I wanted. After they sold the chicken ranch, my parents bought acreage and developed an avocado ranch in Escondido. Gophers are enemy #1 for avocado trees, and cats are the best defense. At times, I had dozens of cats and gave each one a name. But I had other animals: pigs, rabbits, chickens, and my main 4-H project, market sheep. I'd take them to the Del Mar Fair each year and show them. Starting at about 10, I'd have my first taste of freedom. We stayed at the fair, camping out under the racetrack in the betting area. They'd bring in army cots, and for a week, that was our dorms, and we were on our own. Our cafeteria was on the other side of the fairgrounds, past the horse stalls. 


Yes, the Del Mar Racetrack was completed in 1937 on the grounds of the Del Mar Fair, which had opened just a year earlier in 1936. The track was built by a partnership including famous celebrities of the era - most notably Bing Crosby, along with actors Pat O'Brien, Gary Cooper, Joe E. Brown, Charles S. Howard, and Oliver Hardy. When Del Mar opened on July 3, 1937, Bing Crosby was personally at the gate to greet the first fans. Crosby served as President of the Turf Club (where we'd have our auction luncheon) while his friend Pat O'Brien was Vice President. The track quickly earned nicknames like "Bing's Baby" and "Movieland's Own Track" due to its Hollywood connections. One of the most famous moments in Del Mar's history came on August 12, 1938, when the track hosted a $25,000 winner-take-all match race between Seabiscuit and Ligaroti.


This race was the first nationwide broadcast of a thoroughbred race by NBC Radio. In front of a record crowd, Seabiscuit won by a nose, helping to make Del Mar a success. Throughout the late 1940s and 1950s, Del Mar established itself as "the Saratoga of the West" for summer racing, featuring large purses for many stakes races.


The track has continued to attract Hollywood celebrities throughout its history. Stars like Lucille Ball, Desi Arnaz, Betty Grable, and Mickey Rooney were among those who frequented Del Mar, and Jimmy Durante became such a regular that the track eventually named its turf course in his honor. Today, Del Mar Racetrack continues its tradition of thoroughbred racing with its famous slogan "Where the Turf Meets the Surf," a phrase from a song written by Bing Crosby. The track hosts important races like the Pacific Classic and continues to be a significant venue in American horse racing. But for that one week, in the 1960s and 70s, it was "our turf" during the fair.


When I was sixteen, I fell for a much older guy who was about 20. He was the cousin of a good friend, and some of my buddies snuck me into the boys' dorms. This older guy was a chaperone, but so was my dad. Needless to say, I got caught, making out with a guy in the boys' dorm - by my father! In a few hours, was on my way home with my mother. As she drove the car home with me sobbing all the way, she finally pulled over and hugged me. Agreements were made, and she turned the car around. I don't know how she convinced my dad to let me stay at the fair, but my mom was a "fixer." I miss her every day.


Friday, January 1, 2021

Friends for Life - Laura and Sandi with an "i"

 

Laura is my best (non-husband) friend.  We met during 8th grade.  She had sat down in the science class and a few of my friends; Wendy, Sheila, and Kathleen asked Laura to save a seat for “Sandy.”  I came in late and found that empty seat next to Laura.  Laura had moved to Escondido from Arizona where her father had been stationed in the Air Force.  Laura was so much more worldly than me; she had lived and traveled all over the world including a time in the Philippines.   In a few months was her 13th birthday and she asked me to go to Disneyland with her.  At some point, Laura decided that she would like to spell my name with an “I” so that she could make smiley faces or hearts from the dot.  To this day, Laura and I are close and my name is now Sandi with an "i".  We email weekly to stay in touch better since neither of us likes to travel.

Laura’s family were sort of like Ward and June Cleavers of Leave to Beaver for me. Their home at close to Glenview in Escondido was my image of an ideal home; tastefully decorated, organized and clean.  The yard and lawn were manicured.  Her mom was a professional woman; she worked at the school district, dressed well, spoke softly and again, my ideal of June Cleaver.  Her was like any typical 1960s family; with the dad, always in the garage and grunted most of his answers.  I loved how he talked to Laura with his deep voice, calling her Laura Lee or Laurie.  I was so envious of their lifestyle.  Laura’s older brother, David was highly intelligent and talked down to us, but thankfully ignored us.  I think he ended up being a professional student, so rarely at home. 

Laura (on the left above) was very involved in the yearbook in high school and was named the editor for our senior year.  She named me the photo editor which was lots of fun.  I would grab a staff photographer and go to events or advertising engagements and get to set up the shot.  We do have one claim to fame our senior year.  For years we had belonged to the Pep Club and painted these huge posters that the football team runs through.  Nobody seemed to appreciate them.  The pep club president, Sheana had attended a college game where the sign said “Screw Navy” (not sure of the actual team) and had a cute little guy with a screw going through the middle.  We thought it was funny.  For the big Escondido High vs. Orange Glen game, we made a similar sign that said “Screw Escondido” and a cartoon character with a screw through him.  When we put up the sign, the cheering crowd was silent.  Unexpected results.  The team ran through it unknowingly, and then the principal ran down on the field and rounded the 4 or us up.  We were in big trouble and were told to be in his office Monday morning.  That morning, he looked at us and said, “I should suspend all of you for this, but between the four of you, most of the student clubs and organizations would shut down.”  He went on to say that with Laura running the yearbook and having upcoming deadlines and with me being the assistant treasurer and responsible for paying all the student club bills, he couldn’t suspend us. Over the next few weeks, we were shocked to realize that this is probably a record number of letters to the editor – all fully against one thing.  We had united our mostly Republican town against a common enemy; that horrible sign!  When I took the yearbook picture of our principal, the theme was to something with our hands.  I asked him do that and he is pointing at me and saying, “Don’t you ever do anything like that again.”  Nobody probably knows that except me.  The picture still makes me smile.

The top picture of Laura and me is from grad night - 1972 at Disneyland. We had decided to go with each other instead of having dates. I was worried about staying up all night, so my drug-dealer brother gave us some speed which we had never taken before. Needless to say, it made us sick and as we entered the park, we were in bad shape. Two very cute guys saw us and we explained what happened. They offered to escort us around until we felt better and Laura and I ended up having a great time. Unfortunately, I think we ended up running into every guy who we had turned down for dates that evening and each thought we were lying when we said we wanted to go without a date since we obviously had these "dates." When we got home, we decided to sleep on the beach. I snuggled down into my sleeping bag and because of the drug, I didn't wake up until later the next day. Laura was next to me in her bikini - sunning and stunning on the beach. I was a human burrito and a mess!

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